For this months 'A Day in the Life' blog series I interviewed Aussie blogger, Kelly, from www.kelsbells.id.au.
Kelly is in her mid-30's and a first time mum. She's married with one son and a Labrador dog called Missy. Prior to becoming a mum, Kel enjoyed being active, reading, listening to music, blogging, and completing a 52 list. Her 52 list is something she's been doing for over 10 years, where she writes a list of 52 random things to be done that year - 52 weeks (hence 52 in 52). Kel writes about her experiences as she completes them.
Her writing style is sarcastic with a touch of humour (and is uncensored!). She shares most things, including all the gross things about pregnancy, birth and being a parent! Kel has also written through her emotional times, including dealing with break ups and having to learn about herself when she was single and forced to rely on her own company. Writing is a major outlet for Kelly. She loves sharing her journey with everyone, and hopes that people enjoy reading what she has to say.
Let's see what Kelly had to say... (just to note, Kelly actually answered these questions back in May, but I've had so many entries for this blog series (thank you!) that my email have been rather unorganised).
How old is your son?
My son, Luca, is now 10 months old (however, this was written when he was 7.5 months old)
Describe their birth in three words
Emergency c section
What is usually the first thing you do when you wake up?
Stare at the monitor. My son is still waking up several times a night, so usually I'm woken by his sounds coming through the monitor. Usually he's grumbling and rolling around ready to get picked up. We still don't get much sleep in this house.
In a small paragraph, tell us how your average day with your son goes to plan.
- Usually awake for the day somewhere between 5.30am and 6.30am
- First milk feed by 7am
- He plays on the mat with his toys while I make my breakfast/unpack dishwasher/clean up
- We play and ease into the day
- First nap is somewhere between 8am and 9.30am depending on what time he woke up. His nap lasts about 30mins.
- We try to get out for a walk in the pram after that. If he hasn't been easy to get down for his first nap then we go for a walk and he falls asleep in the pram.
- He has both a milk and solid feed at this point spaced about 30mins apart. Solids we're still on purees but introducing other foods. So far he's had peanut butter on toast, and some avocado.
- Mondays we have swimming training at 11.30am, other days we usually try to find something to go out of the house to do. (I'm back at work Tuesdays & Fridays, when he's in day-care)
- Home by 12.30pm in time for his next sleep.
- Try to get him to sleep for about 2 to 2.5 hours at lunch, may have to resettle him to get him back to sleep.
- If he wakes earlier we just put him down for a longer afternoon nap after 2.5 hours of awake time.
- Another milk feed either when he wakes from the long nap or about 2'ish
- More playing, tummy time (trying to encourage him to crawl)
- Milk feed at 5pm
- Solids feed at 5.30pm
- Bath at 6pm
- Start to wind down
- Another milk feed before bed (currently fed to sleep)
Do you go to many/any parent and baby groups? If so, what types?
I'm still in touch with the girls that I did an antenatal class with. We catch up every fortnight at someone's house, and if anyone calls out for a random catch up at any time (park, coffee shop etc). I'm also a member of several online mothers groups via Facebook, either based on my location (Sunshine Coast, Australia) or through the use of the "Baby Centre" app that moved to Facebook.
Where’s your favourite place to buy baby clothes?
I haven't been very creative, so I tend to buy department clothes stores. Target is usually our go-to, although I've just recently bought my bub some stuff from Best 'n' Less (his first football hoody).
What is your most treasured item from when your son was a newborn?
He was born via an emergency c-section and stayed in the intensive care unit for a couple of days while they monitored his heart rate and fluid in his lungs (he was fine). During the c section they had put a little love heart cushion down my top so that when he went into ICU they could leave that with him and he could get used to that scent. When we were being discharged they gave me the cushion as well as his hospital band. We bought a clear bauble and put both objects inside, so that we can hang it on the tree for Christmas every year and remember how lucky we are.
What’s the best baby-related item you’ve bought? And why?
The little roller car walker - he races around in it, keeping him entertained while giving me two hands free to do something productive - eat/clean etc.
If you could pick the best car for your family, what would it be?
I keep joking that my son is going to be a striker for Liverpool FC, which would make me a soccer mum! So I guess some sort of 4wd wagon. We do also love the outdoors, so having a 4wd means that we can indulge in camping, trips up the beach etc. We're an active family. My husband currently drives an Isuzu dmax which we love, so I'd pick the Isuzu MUX - the wagon equivalent! I've always had a soft spot for Nissan Patrols and Toyota Landcruisers though.
What do you/have you struggled with most about becoming a Mum?
The feeling of constant judgement. I've managed to adjust to the lack of personal time, but I'm constantly terrified that people are judging me. Simple things like when someone is next to be while I'm changing a nappy, to whether I'm at home or leaving the baby with the husband. I know that it's more likely that I'm putting pressure on myself rather than anyone actually judging me, but it's hard. Really hard.
What is the best thing about being a Mum?
The smiles from my baby. No matter how hard the day has been, when he looks into my eyes and smiles at me, I melt. I love that. I'm smiling thinking about it now.
Describe you as a Mum in three words.
Loving, mindful, tired
A big thank you to Kelly for taking part in Augusts 'A Day in the Life' blog series. To read Kelly's blog and to say hello over on social media, you can find her at any of the below.
Facebook: Kelly's World
If you’re a mummy (or daddy) blogger and would like to be a part of the “Day in the Life” monthly blog series, please get in touch.
My idea for this blog series is for it to bring lots of parents together, through tips and advice on the mad world that is parenthood. As well as gain an insight into the hectic lives of other mummies and daddies. You’ll soon learn that you’re not alone on this crazy rollercoaster ride!