I know there’s not many people out there 100% comfortable with their bodies - I never have been, not even when I was at my “fittest”. I look back at pictures before I had children and have a little shout at myself for ever feeling body conscious.
When we have children, our bodies go through so much change. That change can be hard to process and accept. In fact, I still haven’t accepted my “Mum Bod” yet and my youngest is now one and a half years old. My hips are bigger, I have tiger stripes, a C-Section pouch and I’m nearly two stone heavier than I was before having children.
Don’t be so hard on your Mum Bod
I wanted to write this post to remind you (and me!) that our bodies have been through such an incredible, magical thing. Our bodies have grown, provided a home for and birthed our babies, whether naturally, via c-section or with a cocktail of pain medication - What’s more amazing than that?! - and we shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves.
These days it’s so easy to compare ourselves to others…
“She’s back in her pre-pregnancy jeans after just one month!”
“How does she not have any stretch marks after having three babies?!”
“I wish I looked like her after having children…”
Social media is the main culprit, as people only tend to share what they want you to see. There’s not many women out there - and hands together for those who do - who share their “real” bodies. I honestly wish I had the confidence to. Unfortunately, filters and photoshop, more commonly used than you know, can hide the parts of our bodies most people can relate to e.g cellulite (90% of women have cellulite!), stretch marks and rolls.
It’s as if having those things is something to be ashamed of and should be hidden from the light of day and never spoken of.
I’m not saying we should all be flashing the flesh, but we shouldn’t be afraid or embarrassed about showing it.
A lot easier said than done, I know.
My Personal Struggles
Only recently I’ve opened up to my husband about how self conscious I really am about my post-pregnancy body. It’s ridiculous to think that I’m even self conscious in front of him!
But unfortunately that’s the way a lot of women’s brains work and if you’re not happy in your own skin, it’s hard to show and reflect any ounce of confidence or “sexiness”.
The change in our body size, shape and weight also brings a whole new challenge of finding clothes that you feel comfortable wearing - something that can have such an impact on how you feel about your body.
Since having children, I felt like I’d always chosen comfort over style. To be honest, I just haven’t felt confident wearing the cropped tops and skin-tight dresses that you find in a lot of the “stylish” high street shops.
It’s about time us women learned to love these “Mum Bods” and feel confident in our own skin.
I’m sure there’s things many of us could do to improve our body confidence, from eating healthier to exercising more but it all starts with loving ourselves enough and realising that these changes need to be made in order for us to feel better.
Speaking to Greg has definitely helped the way I feel and has made me realise how much I want to change my body for the better. So, I’ll be changing my diet and doing some exercises that target the areas I’m not happy with, such as my tummy.
Ladies, here’s to learning to love and appreciate ourselves more. We deserve it!