My husband may work five days a week and be out of the house 12 hours at a time, but my god, I have no idea how I’d manage without him. Not just for his monetary support - although that is of course a greatly appreciated bonus - but, his love, determination as a daddy and husband, and the fact he is my best friend is beyond more than I could ask for.
Over two days this week, I was extremely poorly with a migraine (I ended up going to A&E to check it wasn’t linked to my preeclampsia/blood pressure) and he was a diamond. He went from the working family breadwinner to house-husband in less than two hours! Unfortunately he had to take two days off from work to look after me and little George, of which I am so thankful for. Although this meant he did get to spend some quality father-son time with George.
I have so much admiration for you mummas who manage to look after and raise children on your own. How the heck do you cope when you’re poorly?! I raise my hat, skirt, shoe (basically everything I’m wearing!) to you, because motherhood is a challenging ride as a couple, let alone when you’re going it alone. Keep doing what you’re doing, because you’re doing a fab job!
Luckily, a lot of us have other loved ones (family members and friends) around to help us out. Unless you’re Hollyoaks’ Courtney Campbell, who has a rather inferring and conniving Gran.
The power these guys have is incredible. They are there for us when we are struggling, whether that be through an illness or something more serious. They’re there when we need an extra pair of hands to bath, feed, cuddle and change our babies. Like magic, we have an extra pair of hands, not even necessarily when they’re needed. It’s not like my husband only helps out when I’m struggling. He comes home from work in the week and I instantly feel relaxed and at ease. Just knowing someone else is there now to talk (other than babbling and cooing to my son), cuddle and vent to.
We take so many things for granted, from the water we drink and food we eat, to the people we have in our lives. Sometimes I think we need to take a moment to appreciate the things and people we have in our life. They do a lot for us. Whilst you might not always see it that way - they might seem, and sometimes be interfering, bossy and annoying - but they only want what’s best for us. So take your phone from out of your pocket right now and send a small text message to that special person. Tell them how much they’re appreciated and what you’re thankful for. Tell them you love them. Before you know it, you’ll blink and we’ll be twenty years down the line, where everything will be a whole lot different.
Raising a baby isn’t as easy as building a Lego tower, although the principal is the same - placing pieces together and building upon that foundation - but it’s definitely an incredible journey you should enjoy, whether that’s with or without a partner, husband, wife, girlfriend or boyfriend. There’s no right or wrong way to do this, you just have to make your own way.
This blog post, as you can already guess, was dedicated to my husband, Greg. He does such a wonderful job of being the working husband and daddy, and for that I love him. I thought it would be a rather fitting topic as it was Valentines Day this week.